The one thing I'm NOT doing in 2026

Hey Reader,

With the first full workweek of 2026 underway, you're probably thinking about everything you're raring to tackle:

  • New goals
  • New habits
  • New systems

But I've got a different idea for you to consider...

What if the fastest way forward isn't addition, but subtraction?

This came up when I was chatting with a client this week who is starting in our Speak Like a Senior Leader™ program.

She'd just gotten feedback that she needs to "show more executive presence" if she wants to make VP. So she put together a list of to-do's:

✅ Schedule monthly coffee chats with other leaders to build relationships

✅ Start recording herself in meetings to analyze her speaking style

✅ Practice answering tough questions in front of the mirror

All good things. All things that could help.

But I stopped her and asked: "Before you do any of that, what if you focused on eliminating first?"

She looked confused. "Like what?"

"Like starting every update with 'So this might not be fully baked yet, but...' Or sending three-paragraph emails when two sentences would do. Or running your recommendations by four people before you present them to your boss."

Long pause.

"You're saying... I don't need to add executive presence. I need to remove the things that are hiding it?"

Exactly.

See, we've been conditioned to believe that growth means doing more. But the most sophisticated minds I've worked with ruthlessly subtract.

They take on fewer obligations to protect their energy.

They let go of good ideas so they can go after great ones.

They have less tolerance for people who consistently waste their time.

They delegate and hand off responsibility, without worrying they look lazy.

So before you spend the next few weeks adding to your plate, take stock of what you'll STOP doing.

Because the fastest way to where you want to go isn't giving yourself more commitments, but to remove what's been slowing you down.

How to Be Your True Self at Work

If you’re sick of being told “bring your whole self to work!” and having zero idea what that means, this episode is for you.

Claude Silver, author of Be Yourself at Work, joins me to discuss how to discover who you want to be at work after years of being defined by comparison.

What You'll Discover:

▪️ The three pillars of showing up authentically at work: emotional optimism, emotional bravery, and emotional efficiency

▪️ What to do when you feel stuck in a workplace that doesn't support you (without quitting your job)

▪️ How to lead with heart while still holding people accountable to results

Listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.


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You'll discover:

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  • What pieces actually pull a wardrobe together

After the workshop, most women say they feel less stressed about getting dressed, clear on what actually belongs in their closet, and excited to wear what they already own again.

I've worked with Cassandra many times and cannot recommend her and her team enough!

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Talk soon,

MELODY WILDING, LMSW

2x Best-selling Author, Therapist Turned Award-Winning Executive Coach, Human Behavior Professor

PO Box 281, Bloomingdale, New Jersey 07403
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