Hey Reader,

We're a few days out from 2026. I bet you're reflecting on the year that was.

Hit reply and tell me: what was your proudest moment?

I've been thinking a lot about some feedback I've received this year, especially in the second half.

"You've changed."

A handful of people have said this to me lately, in one way or another. Some meant it as a compliment. Others... definitely did not.

And you know what? They're right. I have changed.

I've been on a journey this year to quit emotionally orchestrating every interaction and just be more myself. That sounds trite, I know. But you don't realize how heavy it is to carry a mask until you start letting it down.

Earlier this year, I talked on my podcast about outgrowing the self-created box of being "the nice, gentle one." Because that version of me was swallowing A LOT.

• Attempting to say the "right thing" so no one got mad
• Bending over backwards to be flexible and building resentment instead
• Downplaying my expertise so others wouldn't feel threatened

When I started setting more boundaries, speaking more directly, showing up with more conviction -- some people did NOT like it.

That's what happens when you stop accommodating.

Status quo bias kicks in. People want to keep you in the version that was serving them.

So as we head into 2026 and you're setting goals -- whether it's going after that promotion, setting boundaries with your boss, speaking up more in leadership meetings -- I need you to hear this:

Some people won't like it.

You have to be able to tolerate that discomfort without caving to it.

You can't let their reaction become evidence that you should go back to the old version of yourself.

It's proof you're no longer shrinking to fit someone else's expectations.

3 Habits of Highly Effective Communicators [BEST OF]

If you've ever found yourself overexplaining in emails, freezing up when you're put on the spot, or second-guessing your words long after a meeting ends, then this episode is for you.

We're re-airing this fan-favorite episode where I share:

▪️ How to get your point across without steamrolling others or overthinking every word

▪️ The overlooked factor that makes high-pressure conversations feel less intimidating

▪️ A simple technique to stay composed (and sound confident) when you're put on the spot

Listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.

More ‘Ridiculously Useful’ Resources

The best way to ask for a promotion

Your review may be right around the corner. If you're planning to position yourself for advancement in 2026, watch this quick video first so you know exactly what to say.

​→ Watch it here​

Starting a new job in January?

Most people throw themselves into proving their worth by saying yes to everything, working late, and overextending to make a good impression. But then you just trap yourself into sky-high expectations you'll feel pressured to keep up with. Here's how to set strong boundaries from day one without sabotaging your reputation.

​→ Read the article​

Conversational perfectionism

Already planning that "big conversation" with your boss for when you're back in the office? The one that's finally going to get you the clarity or buy-in you need? Spoiler alert: you're setting yourself up for disappointment. This podcast episode shares why – and what to do instead.

​​→ Listen here​

Building Influence in the Age of AI

What an honor it’s been to bring Managing Up to so many incredible organizations this year.
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Here are the 5 insights from my talks that audiences say they're still thinking about:
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1. Managing up is NOT about making your boss's life easier. It's about taking control of your own work experience.
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2. When you call someone "difficult," what you usually mean is they have a *different* communication style.
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3. Pithy advice like "come with solutions, not problems!" sounds good but falls apart when things get complicated. You need a proven roadmap of 10 conversations to follow.
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4. To influence upward, you must beyond your direct boss. There’s an entire ecosystem of stakeholders and players to be mindful of and manage.
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5. You have more power than you realize to affect the dynamics around you. Every response, every boundary, every interaction is an opportunity to shape how you're treated and perceived.
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Interested in an event for 2026? Reach out right here. ​

Happy New Year,

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